I was really hurt the other day…
I was chatting to my one co-worker who’s little one was in hospital. I was saying to her the she didn’t need to come in because I would have done her work for her. As the manager I can do everyone’s work. So it isn’t like she’d be behind if she got back to the office. She said not to worry because her mom was at the hospital with the little one.
Another co-worker walked in and joined the conversation. She added that Mommy and Daddy should take time off from the little one and go away for the weekend. Apparently she and her husband do that often and leave her three kids with the nanny.
I was shocked cause my Mom and Dad never needed time off from their kids and if I have to have kids one day I wouldn’t do that. I added that having kids is a responsibility that you can’t just take a weekend off from.
This co-worker turned around and said: “Well you can’t give your opinion now can you? You don’t have children.”
I was taken aback.
Just because I don’t have children doesn’t mean I don’t know anything about them. It isn’t like I forgot to have them. I just want to be settled before I do and excuse me for working on my career first.
Anyways, I helped raise three nephews and two nieces. I have over 15 kids in my Sunday School who I care for and just because I don’t have any kids of my own doesn’t mean that I don’t have motherly instincts.
I got up, walked out of the office and ignored that colleague since.
What my colleagues don’t know is that I suffer from Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and I have been told by doctors that if I go off the pill one of two things will happen…
(1) I fall pregnant straight away; or
(2) I will never fall pregnant.
Now to me, at the age of 35… the clock is ticking. I might be childless one day… and obviously because I haven’t spoken about it to my colleagues it still doesn’t give the one the right to say that to me.
As a woman I am entitled to my opinion in a conversation.
I was telling my Mom about it and how hurt I was. She said not to be… and added that she was most probably a little jealous cause she and her husband weren’t as free as they wanted to be.
I have been considering certain options available to me… namely adoption and IVF. It’s something that I have been looking into, because I would like to have my own child one day. So by the time I am 37, and I haven’t met anyone that I’d like to settle down with, I’ll be able to make a proper decision. I know it is tough on your own but I could make it work. All I need is sperm.
Anyways, just needed to get that off my chest. Especially since that colleague phoned me on Wednesday and asked how I was, cause she hasn’t seen me around. Later the day she came to my office as well to ask if I was okay. Obviously she realised something was up. One day I’ll tell her how it hurt but for now, I’ll just blog about it.
Happy Friday everyone!